Why do I always mess up?
What’s wrong with me?
Why doesn’t anyone love me?
Sound familiar? At least, to me it does. This was my inner dialogue. For years, I focused on my failures and rejected my true self because I wanted to fit in, to feel loved.
To each self-defeating question, I received endless answers, until my desire to transform my life was replaced by a stronger desire to bang my head against a concrete wall.
If I have everything I have ever wanted, than why am I getting so anxious, frustrated, and depressed?
Think about your brain like a Google search. You search for what you WANT and you find what you WANT. Ask Google for cute puppies and you’ll get overwhelmed with cute puppy websites, pictures, and videos.
Your brain works the same way, but instead of searching for something you want, we become good at searching for what we don’t want. We search for the pain, suffering, and struggle. If you want to find a picture of cute puppies, you do not search for a video of someone murdering puppies.
Even as you read this, your brain is at work searching for data relating to these topics, so let’s delete all pictures of puppy murder and replace it with cute puppies playing in the grass on a beautiful autumn day. (phew, that was a close one!)
So, then what happens when you search your brain with a question like “why doesn’t anyone love me?”
Let’s find out:
Ouch! That is not fun, and it also isn’t you. You have a choice to free yourself from all negativity. All it takes is a shift in the questions you ask yourself. Instead of searching for, “Why doesn’t anyone love me?”, Your search may look something like this:
That will change your frown upside down, and turn your day around.
All you have to do is pay attention to the questions you are asking yourself, the intentions that are directing you, and switch the wording to find positive results. Approach life with the mindset of, “How can I grow and contribute?”
Here are the ”results” you really want:
Now, you are Free to Transform!