You HAVE To Stop Saying This


“I have to do this first,” I said to my friend who was excited to talk with me, but I told her that I couldn’t because I had to do something else first. Doing what I had to do became an energy draining chore. I did an average job, didn’t feel good about it, and took my negative feelings into my interaction with my friend.
Knowing that my friend wanted to talk with me didn’t cause me to do an average job. I wanted to blame everything other than myself for the mediocre job that I did.

“I was distracted.”

“I am not feeling it today.”

The real issue is me, and why I was doing what I did. I told myself that I had to do it, as if someone else is making me do it. This insures that I will do just enough to get the job done, instead of doing my best work.


Repetition makes your reputation to others and yourself, so don’t you always want to do your best with everything you do without feeling drained? What if every task that we have to do became tasks that we always want to do?
When we want to do something, we bring our whole-being into that activity. We make life happen!
When we have to do something, we give up our power to make life happen and use just enough energy to make sure things don’t fall apart. Life is making you do it.
Doing something because you have to, will lead to mediocre work that creates more problems. Doing something because you have to, simply slows the process of death.

Doing something because you want to, will unlock more energy, creativity, and better solutions to problems that will help you grow and everyone’s life better.

Whether you are doing the laundry, calling a client, writing a book, or spending time with family and friends, do it because you want to and you will make growth happen, make change happen, and make life happen.


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