Last night, I was thinking in circles about my goals and desires.
I want this..
I want that..
I want my life to look like this..
I want to feel like this..
I visualized it all, and yet my anxiety and fear became stronger.
My stomach turned in knots, I felt like my head was going to explode, and I began to reference my past failures as a guide to success. ERROR ERRROR… Conflicting information. With steam coming out of my ears, I realized that my desires and focus were in a heated argument. I was focusing on what I didn’t have and how I still haven’t gotten it. If I held onto this mindset, I would have gone through a cycle of frustration and depression for the rest of my life.
How did this cause so much frustration and depression?
Our focus and our desires must be congruent. As Tony Robbins says, “Where focus goes energy flows!” As you focus on what you lack, you will get more of it. After a couple minutes of focusing on scarcity, your mind is polluted with failures, excuses, and negative emotions. To break this frightening cycle, you must remind yourself of what you already have and accomplished, of all your luck and good fortune.
Ask yourself, “How can I appreciate what I have, more and more everyday?” you will find an answer. You will find yourself thinking of your successes, instead of your failures, and your loved ones, instead of your “enemies”. You will feel fulfilled and ready to project these feelings into the future, as you vividly imagine fulfilling your dreams and desires.
Anytime you feel yourself getting caught in a self-sabotaging cycle, change your focus. Focus on what you love, what you have accomplished, and what you will accomplish.
Now, you are free to transform!